So I've been exploring and experiencing the concept of loss for a while, both theoretically and practically. One thing I've learned is it's all about perspective - for example, I felt the truly panicky impact of impending financial loss when I impacted the side of my brother's truck into the drive-thru menu at Burger King this weekend. But as I suddenly remember that my cousin would have turned 25 today were it not for the drunk driver who caused her life to end four and a half months ago, I am recalled to a much more profound sense of loss. And even that is more far-reaching than I can imagine, from her fiancee who is trying to pull his life back together to the drunk driver's young child whose mother sits in jail awaiting trial.
Not that I think I should always consider the fact that "it could be worse" -- "it will get better" is a much more rosy approach -- but I'll admit, that's often one way of how I get through things.
Loss is a part of life -- it just happens. How do we deal with it? The answer to that is, naturally, incredibly telling of the person we are at our very core.
And the ruminations will continue next time...
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There's some deeply profound stuff here. I love your writing and perspective. I am sorry about your cousin. I did not know about her death. You are in my prayers as you work through this emotion of "loss."
I like what you said "Loss is a part of life -- it just happens."
To act like it's shocking to experience loss is not very realistic. But then, with some loss, to act like "well, shit happens" is stupid too.
Somewhere in the middle is the place to be, maybe?
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